Media personality Simi Drey opens up about her decision to end her engagement and call off marriage plans, sharing personal insights on relationships.
Simi Drey, the acclaimed British-Nigerian presenter and actress, announced that she called off her wedding plans with her former partner after their engagement.
Simi revealed this during a recent episode of the WithChude podcast, where she discussed her relationship and marriage that ultimately didn’t work out.
The actress revealed the reason behind her decision, explaining that she found herself not completely fulfilled or happy after getting engaged.
The media personality mentioned that she received criticism following the cancellation.
My ex and I didn’t have a perfect relationship. He was never unfaithful or abusive, but there’s an intuitive sense when you’re not completely fulfilled or happy. We live in a region where marriage is highly prioritized, particularly for women. While my parents never pressured me about it, my friends frequently asked, “When will you get married?”
Finally, he proposed. I recall feeling a bit of apprehension—asking myself, “Is he truly the one I’ll marry?” Being very close to my mom, when I shared the news of our engagement with her, she advised me against it by saying, “Simi, don’t go through with this.” However, I assured her that everything was fine.
My mom is not someone who would ever prevent me from doing something or shut me out. However, she realized that I wasn’t feeling fulfilled in the relationship. After speaking with my dad, I hung up the phone in tears of apprehension rather than happiness.
Two months later, I contacted my fiancé and suggested that we focus on improving our relationship before considering marriage.
A month later, I realized that marrying this man wasn’t what I wanted because I desired a relationship built on true value. So, I ended our engagement. Although people around me criticized my decision further, it was important for me to be honest with myself about the fact that the relationship didn’t make me happy.
It was only after leaving that reality sank in. I understood that being single and content is preferable to being married but unhappy. If I don’t feel respected or if a man believes he’s superior due to his status or wealth, that’s not acceptable for me.
